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On People-pleasing
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What is people-pleasing? People-pleasing is not your character or your nature — it’s a strategy. It’s a learned behaviour that often develops as a way to stay safe and maintain connection. At some point, you might have learned that in order to be liked and accepted, you had to put others’ needs before your…
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Moving Through Conflict
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If you’re someone who doesn’t like conflict and would prefer to hide or run from it, you’re not alone. Many of us grew up in environments where conflict felt unsafe, unpredictable or pointless. As a result, avoiding it can feel like the safest option. You might find yourself staying quiet, changing the subject, or…
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What to Do if You Don’t Know What to Talk About in Sessions
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Embarking on a counselling journey can bring a range of feelings. Sometimes, you might feel like the sessions are too short to express everything you wish to share, and other times, you may find yourself struggling to find the right words or topics to discuss during your sessions. It’s perfectly normal to have moments…
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The Art of Setting Boundaries for Couples
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We are relational beings. As a consequence, the health of our relationships contributes significantly to our mental health. One crucial aspect of fostering healthy relationships as a couple is setting boundaries. Therefore, how/when/whether we set boundaries in our relationships has a positive or negative effect on our emotional well-being. It is also important to…
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How to Get the Most Our of Couples Therapy
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You are likely to get the most from couples therapy if you embrace the idea that change is possible. Couples therapy is an opportunity to explore your roles and expectations in relationships. So your willingness to self-reflect and be open to feedback will be important in this process. Here are some ideas to get the most…