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Online and In-person Couples therapy in Braintree and Colchester. — Couples Therapy in a Nutshell

Online and In-person therapy in Braintree and Colchester — Couples Therapy in a Nutshell

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What is self-care looking like for you today? 🌱

What is self-care looking like for you today? 🌱 Something I keep reminding myself is even the smallest acts of care makes a difference.

A reminder for anyone who needs to hear this… 🌱

It is good to know what to expect 🌱

It is good to know what to expect 🌱

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When we say, “I don’t mind, you decide,” we

When we say, “I don’t mind, you decide,” we don’t actually offer much for the other person to truly connect with.

We might think to ourselves that we are being kind, but what’s not talked about enough when it comes to people-pleasing is this:

Every time we push our own needs aside, we add just another brick to the wall between us and the other person.

When this continues over time, we disconnect from ourselves as well as the people around us.

This might be because we have an underlying belief that connection comes from always agreeing.

Breaking down this invisible wall starts with small steps. It comes from showing up as ourselves, with our preferences, our opinions, and our voice.

Do you find it hard to express what you want?

Here are some questions to help you reflect on your own experience:

⭐What fears come up when you consider expressing your needs more openly?

⭐How might your relationships change if you allowed yourself to take up more space?

If you'd like to explore this in a supportive space, therapy can be an excellent platform.

#selfawareness #relationships #peoplepleasing #innergrowth #selfworth #emotionalconnection #communication #boundaries #selfreflection #mindfulrelationships #couplestherapy #psychotherapy #psychotherapist #emotionalintelligence #emotionalwellbeing #cigdemberrettpsychotherapy

Do you ever wonder if your relationship might bene

Do you ever wonder if your relationship might benefit from couples therapy?

Couples therapy can support any relationship, not just those in crisis. It can be especially helpful when:

✨ There are frequent arguments over seemingly small things.
✨ There are no arguments at all, but a sense of drifting apart - an underlying emotional disconnection.
✨ Disputes keep resurfacing and never seem to get resolved.

Seeking therapy doesn’t mean your relationship has failed. In fact, many couples wait too long before taking the first step - according to research, on average, delaying by six years. Incredible, right?

If any of this resonates, it might be time to explore support. Visit my blog for resources for couples or reach out to see how we could work together.

#couplescounselling #therapy #emotionalfocusedtherapy #trransactionalanalysis #couplestherapist #onlinecounselling #relationships #emotionalliteracy #emotionalintelligence

As humans, we have a relational need to be emotion

As humans, we have a relational need to be emotionally ‘found’. This simply means that we need to feel seen, heard, and accepted for who we are.

But sometimes we may have learned to hide parts of ourselves to stay safe.

We might hide behind a smile, behind perfectionism, or by always being the strong, capable one.

Over time, though, these hidden parts don’t disappear—they find other ways to make themselves known. They show up in resentment, self-doubt, or feeling disconnected in relationships.

When we gently acknowledge the parts of us that we’ve pushed aside, we create space.

If this resonates, therapy can offer a space to explore and reconnect with the parts of you longing to be seen 🌱

#selfacceptance #therapyhelps #transactionalanalysis #peoplepleasing #perfectionism #emotionalawareness #mentalhealth #emotionalwellbeing #relationaltrauma

Conflicts, mistakes, and hurt can happen in all re

Conflicts, mistakes, and hurt can happen in all relationships. What matters most is how we 'repair'. An apology is the first step in that process.

A real apology comes from the Adult part of us - the part that is here and now, capable of taking responsibility without excuses.

It acknowledges the impact of our actions, expresses genuine remorse, and includes a commitment to do better.

It does not justify, minimise, or rush past the discomfort.

🌱What kind of apologies do you find most healing to receive?

🌱Do they feel like true repair?

#counselling #psychotherapy #selfworth #relationships #couplestherapy #psychotherapistsofinstagram #personalgrowth #mentalhealth #emotionalwellbeing

Anxiety doesn't just live in our minds. As we are

Anxiety doesn't just live in our minds. As we are relational beings, it also shapes our relationships. It may look like this:

🌱 We have a strong belief that 'if we ask for help, we will be a burden'. We assume that we’ll push others away because we think our needs are 'too much'.

🌱 We seek reassurance constantly, wanting to know that we haven’t upset anyone. Our sense of being 'okay' depends on others being 'okay' with us.

🌱 We overthink our interactions – wondering if we said 'the wrong thing', or if we’re coming across as 'too much'.

🌱 We avoid difficult conversations – because the thought of confronting something uncomfortable feels just too overwhelming.

If you’re noticing these patterns in yourself, it might be time to give yourself the space to explore them.

Whichever step you may take, please treat yourself with gentleness and compassion 🌱

#anxiety #relationships #mentalhealthawareness #selfawareness #overthinking #therapy #selfcompassion #emotionalhealth #communication

Perfectionism in relationships can show up in subt

Perfectionism in relationships can show up in subtle ways; ways we might not even link to perfectionism. Some examples are:

🌱Struggling to express our needs because we don’t want to be ‘too much’
🌱 Overanalysing every text, every response, every silence
🌱 Feeling like we have to earn love by ‘doing it all’
🌱 Holding ourselves (and others) to impossibly high standards

Perfectionism can make relationships feel like a test we have to pass instead of a space where we can simply be.

Have you noticed perfectionism showing up in your relationships? What has helped you navigate it?

#perfectionism #relationships #mentalhealth #emotionalliteracy

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Healing doesn’t happen in isolation. It unfolds

Healing doesn’t happen in isolation. It unfolds in the presence of those who truly meet us as we are. When we feel safe, valued, and understood, something shifts. Can you relate?🌱

#therapyworks #mentalwellbeing #selfgrowthjourney #healingispossible #selfworthmatters #relationshipsmatter #mentalhealthsupport #youarenotalone #emotionalwellness

A little reminder to give ourselves what we need..

A little reminder to give ourselves what we need...🌱

#motivation #selfcare #selfcompassion #mentalwellbeing

We learn how to be in relationships early in our l

We learn how to be in relationships early in our lives. These experiences shape what we know about love, boundaries, and belonging.

When we abandon ourselves in relationships, it often happens subtly. We might say yes, when we mean no, we might dismiss our feelings, or carry emotional burdens that aren’t ours. 🌱

Recognising these patterns is the first step toward change. We might also need to figure out our own answers to the following questions:

🌱 How do we stay connected to others without abandoning parts of ourselves?

or

🌱 How can we start showing up for ourselves while staying connected to others?

If you recognise any of these signs, psychotherapy can help you explore where they come from and support you in building healthier, more fulfilling relationships—with others and with yourself.🌱

#therapy #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #psychotherapy #peoplepleasing #attachment

We often assume we know what others are thinking,

We often assume we know what others are thinking, or we assume things about ourselves, or we assume that there is one "right thing." Often, these thoughts aren’t based on facts, but on a story we tell ourselves.

What if we get curious about our assumptions? That's essentially what happens in therapy; we learn to get curious, and this opens up space for self-compassion, acceptance, and a bit more clarity 🌱

#selftrust #innercritic #selfdoubt #selfcompassion #perfectionism #therapy #therapist #psychotherapist #counsellor

This quote is from Cheryl Richardson's book called

This quote is from Cheryl Richardson's book called 'The Art of Extreme Self-care'. Have you read it?

This is a reminder for myself and for you, this Sunday, to think about what you truly need – and to give yourself permission to receive it 🌱.

#SelfCare #selfcaresunday #mentalhealth #mentalhealthawareness #mentalwellbeing #mentalwellbeingmatters #therapy

The first step towards change is sometimes decidin

The first step towards change is sometimes deciding we are ready for something different. We don’t need to have it all figured out - just a small step forward is enough 🌱

#selfcompassion #therapyhelps #emotionalwellness #selfworth #emotionalwellbeing #change #quotes #mentalhealth #mentalhealthawareness

The fear of rejection can subtly influence how we

The fear of rejection can subtly influence how we navigate relationships and our interactions with others.

It might show up as:

🌱Overthinking every conversation, worrying about how others might feel.
🌱Difficulty saying "no" or setting boundaries, leading to overwhelm.
🌱A tendency to over-explain to prevent any misunderstanding.
🌱Anxiety about being judged or criticised, which can hold us back.
🌱Avoiding risks that involve connecting with others.

If you recognise these signs in yourself, please be compassionate to yourself. It is human and normal to want to belong. If you’d like to learn more and explore ways of working together, please head to my website for more information 🌱

#fearofrejection #selfcompassion #mentalhealth #boundaries #peoplepleasing #perfectionism #therapy #therapist

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