As we are relational beings, our relationships shape how we experience ourselves and the world around us.
They can be a source of deep connection, growth and meaning, as well as challenge and pain. As Esther Perel, a psychotherapist and renowned author, puts it “The quality of your life ultimately depends on the quality of your relationships.”.
Over the years, I have undertaken further training in couples therapy, including Level 1 and 2 in the Gottman Method of Couples Therapy and I incorporate many of its tools into my work with couples. The Gottman approach is evidence-based and grounded in decades of research, focusing on strengthening friendship and fondness, building trust, managing conflict, and creating shared meaning.
I also draw on Transactional Analysis Psychotherapy and attachment theory, both of which offer a wealth of insight into interpersonal dynamics — in other words, how we relate to one another and the patterns that often emerge between people.
How Does the Couples Therapy Process Work?
Our first session lasts 90 minutes. This allows us to explore your relationship, including its history, and to understand some of the unique challenges and needs. We will also take time to discuss your individual viewpoints and histories, and touch upon goals for therapy. After this, I will provide structured questionnaires covering different aspects of your relationship, so that we can build a more detailed picture of your relationship together.
In our initial work, we will review your strengths alongside areas that may need attention. Together, we will collaboratively decide how to move forward, what to focus on, and discuss your therapy goals (which we will revisit from time to time). Subsequent sessions typically last 60 minutes and offer ongoing support as you build new skills and develop insights.
My aim is to facilitate sessions in a way that feels safe and supportive for you both, so you can explore and experiment with new ways of relating to each other. As soon as it feels appropriate, my role will become less central — allowing what you practise in our sessions to take root in your everyday life.
If you’re ready to take the next step, feel free to get in touch with any questions or to arrange an initial session.